Madeeha Damoun

The Impact of Parental Communication on Your Inner Voice

How your parents talk to you has the potential of becoming your inner voice. Growing up, if your parents spoke to you in a harsh, critical way, your inner voice may be overly judgmental of yourself. This may end up hurting you, making you stuck in a trap.. there is a way to break free from this pattern and cultivate a more compassionate connection with ourselves. Welcome to the transformative practice, I call “Re-Parenting.”

Rewiring Your Inner Voice:

The first step in reparenting is to become conscious of the self-loathing habits that have taken hold within us. By recognising these patterns and making a conscious effort to replace them with grace and kindness, we can rewire our brains to generate more compassionate and supportive thoughts. It is through this intentional shift in our inner dialogue that we begin to heal and grow.

Embracing Acceptance:

Reparenting also involves accepting our past and releasing ourselves from the victim mentality. Instead of asking,

“Why me?”

we learn to let go of the resentment and reclaim our power. This journey of self-acceptance allows us to break free from the chains that have held us captive, empowering us to create a better future for ourselves and our children.

Breaking the Cycle:

One of the most profound aspects of reparenting is recognising how our critical thoughts about ourselves can inadvertently translate into critical words spoken to our children. This perpetuates the cycle, burdening the next generation with unhealed wounds. As self-assured parents, it becomes our responsibility to shield our children from our own insecurities and provide them with an environment that fosters their authentic growth. Reparenting means giving our children the space to think freely and discover their own inner voice, untainted by our biases and judgments.

Investing in Emotional Needs:

Pam Leo’s words resonate deeply when she says, “We spend time meeting children’s emotional needs by filling their love cup. Or we spend time dealing with behaviours caused by their unmet needs. Either way, we spend time.” Reparenting involves investing our time and energy in nurturing our children’s emotional well-being. By doing so, we equip them with the tools to develop resilience and fulfils their potential.

Embarking on the journey of reparenting is not only an act of self-healing but also a powerful step towards breaking the cycle of generational wounds. As we liberate ourselves from the constraints of our past and cultivate self-compassion, we pave the way for a brighter future for ourselves and the generations to come. Let us embrace the power of reparenting, forging a path towards personal growth, healing, and creating a nurturing environment for our children to thrive.